Episode 105

What you don't realize about ADHD in relationships - featuring executive ADHD Coach Elle O’Flaherty

Dear WNF listener, if you have listened to our show, you will know that ADHD is a topic so near to our hearts we wanted to find just the right person with just the right knowledge base and approach to do this complex and relevant topic justice. In this episode, we hear from federal attorney and trade negotiator turned founder of Interlace Solutions, a coaching firm helping professionals and executives to fulfill their potential. Elle O'Flaherty coaches both individuals with ADHD and couples who would like to partner better around ADHD. If you or your loved one has ADHD, this episode will really speak to you. We cover how to determine the difference between unfocused, burnt out, unmotivated and actual diagnosable ADHD, most common ADHD related issues for the ADHD-er, and then we dive into the impact of ADHD on a relationship. And most importantly, this episode is packed full of apps, resources, strategies for better mutual understanding and partnership around ADHD. Prepare to feel so much love and compassion of all those involved.

https://www.interlacesolutions.com/

@elleoflaherty on Instagram



00:00 Introduction and Excitement for the Topic

01:23 Overview of the Podcast and Topic

03:11 Personal Stories and Examples of ADHD Challenges

05:38 ADHD Brain Traits and Accommodations

08:20 Understanding ADHD as a Strength

10:05 Managing ADHD Symptoms and Challenges

16:06 Elle O'Flaherty's Background and Interest in ADHD

22:31 Increase in ADHD Diagnoses in Women

24:48 Stigma and Disclosure of ADHD

28:48 Talking About ADHD in the Workplace and Relationships

32:03 Motivating Individuals with ADHD

36:10 Reframing and Adding Interest to Tasks

40:43 ADHD and OCD Overlap

42:08 The Overlap Between ADHD, Trauma, and Autism Spectrum Disorders

43:05 The Lack of Training and Understanding Among Healthcare Professionals

45:23 The Challenges of the DSM-5 Definition of ADHD

46:17 Medication and ADHD Coaching as Treatment Options

50:27 Strategies for Managing ADHD Symptoms

53:45 Externalizing Memory and Accommodating ADHD in Daily Life

56:02 Creating Routines and Accommodating ADHD in Relationships

01:06:21 Understanding Time Blindness and Hyperfocus in ADHD

01:13:19 The Benefits of Having an ADHD Partner or Co-worker

01:14:43 Accommodating and Supporting Individuals with ADHD in Relationships

01:19:20 Strategies for Navigating ADHD in Relationships


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